Daily Cupcake #39: Worrying
Worrying is toxic.
Worry is a loop of thoughts that get me in a funk during the day and can keep me up at night. It's those thoughts of did I forget anything, was it good enough and was I good enough.
Problem solving is fueling.
I try to recognize worry and shift it to problem solving. It's a change in thought pattern. I pick one thought and try to follow it a solution---something I can do or think that will stop me worrying about it.
This can be as simple as taking action.
If I get an email that's worrying, then I need to respond directly by the end of the day at the latest.
It can also be action with a shift in perspective.
It is important for me to try and create positive habits around being a mama. If I find myself caught up in something for even a few days, it's time to problem solve.
My tiny human is not a newborn, not even an infant anymore, but a toddler. For me that's a different kind of mindset and mothering. I don't want to worry about whether I'm patient enough with her, so I take her lead and when it isn't feasible I explain why. She may not get that part yet, but it keeps me from worrying that she feels dismissed and builds a habit of honesty.
Lately, she wants to help with most all the daily activities, but they don't always translate well like "wiping" her tray and food raining down. If I give her a piece of a napkin and show her spot to clean though, she's delighted. In the long-term I let her know she's heard and that's building the relationship I want for us.
In the meantime, I took action around a worry and shifted perspective.
Problem solved. Less worry.
Which leads me to this #DailyCupcake about Worrying that follows the Pilates principle of "concentration". Depending on what you need in your day you can take:
Just a nibble: “Worry often gives a small thing a great shadow.” Swedish Proverb
A few bites: What’s on your mind? Does it need to be? Can you do anything about it?
Every last bite: Do what you can and let go of the worry that is depleting your mental energy.